It's common to hear, "walk a mile in their shoes." It's a common thing to say, "I understand."
But we don't.
Too often, we think someone is being selfish, simply because what they are doing isn't about us or isn't what we want them to do. We call them selfish when the reality is this: we define another person's act as selfish, not based on them thinking only about them self, but about us only thinking about our self.
We all do it. We are all sometimes on the other side too, where we're being called selfish. It hurts.
Sometimes we must realize that people act for so many reasons in so many ways that we don't know. They probably have many things going on, the least of which is an intention to hurt you. And sometimes, people must be selfish, thinking about them self over you, or their own family over yours. That doesn't make them bad.
Some hurtful things have been said to (and about) my family this week, but I'm trying to remember that people that know our hearts know our intentions. I'm trying my best to not be selfish and only see if from my perspective. I'm not doing a great job, but I'm trying.
Phillipians2:3-4 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.